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Why are you trying to be her?

Wow look at her body, I need to get to the gym. Her outfit is so cute, I need to go shopping. I wish my stomach were flatter, more crunches for me. What can I do to make my legs bigger? More squats for me. Dang, did you see her car? I think it's time for an upgrade. Oh, she just got her Masters, maybe I should go back to school too. You just purchased your first home, what a major blessing! Then you see a classmate post their new home that's basically a mansion, and you begin to feel ashamed of the cute little rancher that you were so thrilled about. Your friend just got a promotion, so now you're thinking about finding a new position, when you were simply happy with the position you pleaded to God for. 


You look at the woman walking down the hall who looks perfectly polished with her heels and chic style and think man, I could have done better with myself today. Instead of giving her a compliment, you start to think of all the reasons why you could never equal up to her and you start to shrink a little next to her as you both get in the elevator. You pull your hair out of your face and adjust your clothing to see if you can make yourself more visually appealing.  You thought you looked nice this morning, but once you saw home girl dressed to the nines you thought, maybe I should have put on some makeup and some pumps or something.  Suddenly, your favorite cardigan, bun and flats don't seem as nice as you thought when you walked out of the door this morning. Yes, ladies I know the feeling. I've been there too. I think we all have at one point or another. We're always wanting more, never satisfied. I think it's time we really stop and smell the roses, because all of us are blessed in some way or another. 


Galatians 6:4-5 tells us this: Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won't need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct. 


Somehow, we manage to downplay who God has designed us to be. We compare ourselves, down ourselves and even start to become ungrateful with the blessings God has given us. We think we aren't good enough because of the material things we don't have. We think we aren't smart enough because we didn't get the particular job we wanted so badly, when maybe just maybe God has something greater in store. We think that we aren't beautiful because we get a few pimples or because we aren't shaped like a perfect figure eight- when God is only looking at our hearts, he sees our beauty from within.


 Defining ourselves based on what the world thinks and not by what God knows about us will lead us astray and keep us thinking that we aren't enough. This constant cycle of comparing, I'm guilty of it too. Whether it be someone on Instagram, a colleague, even a close friend or family member, we somehow start to compare. Hearts that were once grateful become saddened, bitter, or envious. We begin to focus on the wrong things. If only we could see how blessed, we really are and how beautiful we are in Gods eyes. If only we knew how much we meant to him and that he made us each with so much love and care. God never intended us to be like the woman standing next to us. Will we ever learn to fully embrace who he made us to be individually? We must learn to be satisfied with the things God has blessed us with and not measure what we have to what our sister next to us has. Keeping a grateful heart is easier when we keep Christ at the center of our lives. 


It can be hard to keep our authenticity in this social media driven culture, but if we focus our eyes on the real prize—a beautiful relationship with Jesus, we can remain appreciative of who we are in him and all he has done in our lives. Even if people consider what you have and who you are as less than, always remember that you are fearfully and wonderfully made, and that GOD made no mistake when creating you. Just take a look at Psalm 139. I mean God knitted us together. Like literally MADE us from scratch ya'll. How can we NOT see how important we are to God? 


Psalm 139:13-14  

For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are you works; my soul knows it very well. 


So today, focus less on what your neighbor has and more on who God is and what he's already done for you. Today, don't compare your smile, don't compare your waistline, your car, or your abilities to anyone. I encourage you to think of things you are grateful for today. I encourage you to take a deep breath and look at all of the beauty around you. Today, think of God’s love for you and how he made you in his image. Concentrate on being the best version of you and not a duplicate of her. Remember, our worth is not found in this world, what we own or what people think of us, our worth is found in Christ. 

 



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